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Never Talk to Strangers (1995)
IMDB rating: 4.80
Plot: Sarah Taylor, a police psychologist, meets a mysterious and seductive young man, Tony Ramirez, and falls in love with him. As a cause of this relationship she changes her personality when she begins to receive anonymous telefon calls.
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Directors: Hall Peter
Actors: Banderas Antonio,Miller Dennis,Cariou Len,Stanton Harry Dean,Lipinski Eugene,Starr Beau,Jarrett Phillip,Kelleher Tim,Gannascoli Joseph R.,Dreger Reg,Thriller,
Why do some people think it's acceptable to be rude to smokers?
This is something I’ve noticed lately that really annoys me. So many people think it is OK to be incredibly rude to smokers. I was recently at a party where 5 or so of us (mostly people who lived in the house) stepped outside on the porch to have a cigarette. This girl came outside and basically yelled at us for 5-10 minutes, typical "smoking is so disgusting," "it’s so bad for you," "it’s going to kill you," etc. I didn’t know this person and was really surprised that some people think it is OK to be rude to smokers just because smoking is "bad." We are all in our 20s btw.
I really, totally understand if you don’t like smoking. That’s fine. If you are sitting close to a smoker or in an enclosed space or designated non-smoking area or have a child with you or something, I believe you absolutely have a right to say it bothers you and ask the smoker to leave or put out their cigarette. I actually think it’s very inconsiderate for smokers to do this, you have a right to clean, smoke-free air, etc. and go ahead and speak up if it bothers you.
But if someone is smoking outside, in a well-ventilated area that is designated for smoking, well away from other people, will dispose properly of the butts, IT’S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS! I’m well aware of the negative health consequences, you’re not enlightening me with your talks about lung cancer/heart disease/breathing problems/ugly skin and teeth/bad smell. It’s just rude and annoying. I would NEVER go up to an obese person at a fast food restaurant and tell them they are disgusting, killing themselves, etc. You are entitled to your opinion and a smoke-free environment, but you are NOT entitled to tell other people what to do with their lives and their bodies.
Has anyone else experienced this? If you have been the person to lecture your acquaintances or strangers about how disgusting and bad you think their smoking habit is, what did you think it would accomplish besides them being annoyed at you?
I understand that sometimes non-smokers will be put in a situation where someone is smoking near them and the smoke makes them uncomfortable. THIS IS STILL NOT AN EXCUSE TO BE RUDE. If someone near you has horrible BO or a perfume you can’t stand, would you hold your nose, make a face and say "Ew! it STINKS in here!" I hope not. It’s incredibly immature and disrespectful. So why would you say that to a smoker? Just be polite and most smokers will extend you the same courtesy. There is NO need to be rude about just because someone is doing something you don’t agree with.
If you are in a "social situation" where people are doing something you aren’t comfortable with (smoking, drinking, using drugs, shooting up heroin for god’s sake) just LEAVE if you are not comfortable with it. You are not the queen of the world! It is not "your space" unless it is your house (and then you can tell them whatever you want). No one wants your opinion on what you think is right or wrong.
I haven’t been put in many situations where people have been rude to me personally, as I don’t smoke in public places, walking down the sidewalk or near doors, or even before I’m going to work or somewhere else where I’ll be in close contact with people, because I know the smell lingers and I personally don’t like it either.
But if I am at a party at my own house and go outside on the porch to smoke a cigarette, I’m not bothering you or intruding on your "space" so please STFU. I really am not confrontational, if someone says something rude to me about it I will mostly just ignore it.
If you DO ask a smoker to move out of "your space" and they do it, that’s the end of the discussion. There is no need to make additional comments like "I just need some clean air to breathe in," "smokers are so discourteous," etc. unless the person was purposefully blowing smoke in your face, in which case they are an asshole. But most smokers aren’t like that, just as most non-smokers aren’t either.
Also calling smokers "social pariahs" is RIDICULOUS and incredibly immature, disrespectful, self-important and of course RUDE!
It’s one of those things that’s ‘OK’ to hate and be ignorant to people about. You’re right about the double standards of people accepting obesity more.
It’s less about health concern than it is personal aversion and being judgmental with their opinions with many hardcore ‘anti-smoking’ types.
Brad B, Three Timer | Feb 01, 2010
There have always been rules in place for smokers. They agree to smoke where they’re allowed and ask first when others are around (will it bother you if I smoke?), and then the nonsmokers allow the smokers their dignity and don’t harrass them when they’re not bothering anyone. The hostilities aren’t helping either side.
Aporia | Feb 01, 2010
First of all THERE IS NEVER enough ventilation for cig smoke!
Everything she said was true.
you will never understand how disgusting and how penetrating cig smoke is until you quit!
I have been in a car and the car in front of me is spewing cig smoke that gets into my ventilation syst.
I don’t lecture.. all I say is "you know those things will eventually kill you or your mate"
MY SUGGESTION is for you to go to a local hospital and volunteer in the respiratory section … that might change your mind.
eyjude | Feb 01, 2010
That comparison to fat people is old, tiresome, and not a true comparison. While I don’t agree with her approach, I understand her frustration. Smokers feel that they have a monopoly on outdoor space because that’s the only place they "can" smoke. Unfortunately, it confines non-smokers to the indoors spaces where they cannot enjoy fresh air either way. Even "designated" smoking areas require the smoker to be thoughtful of the airflow direction. There’s a reason that in addition to laws requiring you to step outside, they had to add that you stand more than 15 feet from the door because smokers are simply addicted, and it makes them very self-absorbed and rude.
Anyone who cannot go to a social event for a few hours without slamming their drugs has a serious problem, and I treat all addicts and other social pariah the same when they are in my space. I’m not sure what you expect to be different.
misslabeled | Feb 01, 2010
Whether it is smoking, drinking, swearing, etc. people think it’s acceptable to be rude because they are rude. End of discussion. Until these people begin to grow up or get tired of being treated in like manner they are unlikely to behave any differently.
Ms Maven | Feb 01, 2010
Have you ever been told ( not asked) to stop smoking on the beach? I have! She was at least 10 feet away from me and it was a lovely breezy day. I told her to move, I was outside. Grrr,!!
julie ann | Feb 01, 2010
